My
experience in Islam began as a graduate student in New York City in 1998. Up to
that point in my life, for 25 years, I had been a Protestant Christian, but had
not been practicing my religion for quite some time. I was more interested in
“spirituality” and looking for anything that didn’t have to do with organized
religion. To me, Christianity was out of touch and not relevant to the times.
It was hard for me to find anything in it that I could apply to my everyday
life. This dissolution with Christianity led me to shun everything that claimed
to be organized religion, due to my assumption that they were all pretty much
the same, or at least in terms of their lack of relevance and clarity.
Much
of my frustration with Christianity stemmed from its lack of knowledge and
guidance around the nature of God, and the individual’s relationship to Him. To
me, the Christian philosophy depended on this rather bizarre intermediary
relationship that we were supposed to have with Jesus, who on one hand was a
man, but was also divine. For me, however, this difficult, and very vague
relationship with our Creator left me searching for something that could
provide me with a better understanding of God, and our relationship to Him. Why
couldn’t I just pray directly to God? Why did I have to begin and end every
prayer with “in the name of Jesus Christ?” How can an eternal, omnipotent
Creator and Sustainer also take the form of a man? Why would He need to? These
were just a few of the questions that I could not resolve and come to terms
with. Thus, I was hungry for a more straightforward, direct and clear approach
to religion that could provide my life with true guidance, not just dogma that
was void of real knowledge based in fact.
While
in graduate school, I had a Jewish roommate at the time who was a student of
the martial arts. While I was living with him, he was studying an art called
silat, a traditional Malaysian martial art that is based on the teachings of
Islam. When my roommate would come home from his silat classes, he would tell
me all about the uniqueness of silat and its rich spiritual dimension. As I was
quite interested in learning martial arts at the time, I was intrigued by what
I had heard, and decided to accompany my roommate to a class one Saturday
morning. Although I did not realize it at the time, my experience in Islam was
beginning that morning at my first silat class in New York City back on
February 28th, 1998. There, I met my teacher, Cikgu (which means teacher in
Malay) S., the man who would provide with my basis and orientation to Islam.
Although I thought I was beginning a career as a martial artist, that day back
in 1998 really represented my first step toward becoming Muslim.
From
the very beginning, I was intrigued by silat and Islam and began spending as
much time as possible with my teacher. As my roommate and I were equally
passionate about silat, we would go to my teacher’s house and soak up as much
knowledge as we could from him. In fact, upon our graduation from graduate
school in the spring of 1998, upon his invitation, we spent the entire summer
living with him and his wife. As my learning in silat increased, so did my
learning about Islam, a religion that I had hardly any knowledge of prior to my
experience in silat.
What
made my orientation to Islam so powerful was that as I was learning about it, I
was also living it. Because I studied at the home of my teacher, being in the
presence of devout Muslims allowed me to be constantly surrounded by the
sounds, sights and practices of Islam. For as Islam is an entire lifestyle,
when you are in an Islamic environment, you cannot separate it from everyday
life. Unlike Christianity, which lends toward a separation between daily life
and religion, Islam requires its followers to integrate worship of Allah into
everything we do. Thus, in living with my teacher, I was immersed in the
Islamic deen and experiencing first-hand how it can shape one’s entire way of
life.
In
the beginning, Islam was so new, different and powerful to me. It was also very
foreign in many ways and the amount of discipline it requires was difficult to
understand. At the time, I was so liberal in so many ways, and was used to
shunning anything dogmatic or imposed, regardless of who authored it! As time
went on, however, and my understanding of Islam grew, I began to slowly see
that what seemed to be religious dogma was really the lifestyle put forth to us
by our Creator – or the Arabic term, “deen” of Allah. This lifestyle, I would later
learn, is the straight path to true contentment, not just the sensual and
superficial way of life that my society and culture promote. I realized that
the question is quite simple actually. Who could possibly know better than the
all-wise Creator, what is the best way of life for human beings?
From
the day of my first silat class in New York City to the day I took my shahadda,
July 30, 1999, I underwent a thorough self-examination that was comprised of
two major experiences. One was the process of questioning the culture I was
brought up in, and the second was struggling to understand the true nature of
God and the role of religion in my everyday life. As for my culture, this one
was not as difficult as most people would think. For me, growing up in America
and knowing no better, it took a powerful experience, a gifted teacher, and the
right knowledge to experience truth. American culture is very powerful because
it constantly bombards us with sensual gratification. Unless we are removed
from it, it is difficult to see its limitations, which are based on worshipping
and putting faith in everything but God, the only One that can provide us with
real, lasting support in our lives.
Being
a social scientist by trade, much of my time is spent working on and pondering
over the ills and dilemmas of our society. As I learned more about Islam, I
came to the conclusion that societal ills are based primarily on unhealthy,
dysfunctional social behaviors. Since Islam is a lifestyle focused totally on
the most healthy, positive way of conducting our lives in every setting, then
it is, and will always be, the only true answer to any society’s social
dilemmas. With this realization, not only did I decide that Islam was relevant
to my everyday life, but I began to understand why it is so different from
other religions. Only Islam provides knowledge and guidance for every aspect of
life. Only Islam provides a way to achieve health and happiness in every
dimension of life – physical, spiritual, mental, financial, etc. Only Islam
provides us with a clear life goal and purpose. And only Islam shows us how to
live in and contribute to a community, not just talk about it. Islam is what
everyone needs, and what so many who have not found it yet, are searching for.
It is the path to purpose, meaning, health and happiness. This is because it is
the straight path to the source of all the power we could ever need – Allah.
It
was only until I actually became Muslim that I realized just how encompassing
our lifestyle truly is. Literally everything we are instructed to do has one
underlying purpose – to remember Allah. It just shows the absolute and divine
brilliance of the deen, in that there is a lifestyle that can show you how to
remember your Creator in as simple an act as greeting someone, or getting
dressed in the morning, or waking up from sleep. Islam shows us that by
constantly remembering Allah, everything we do becomes focused on Him, and thus
becomes an act of worship. From this, our energy, our thoughts, and our actions
all become redirected away from unhealthy and useless causes, and focused on
the source of all goodness. Thus, we are continuously tapping into His divine
strength, mercy and grace. So, by remembering Allah constantly, we become
stronger, better, and healthier in every aspect of our lives.
There
were, and still are, aspects of Islam that have proven at least somewhat
difficult for me. Nevertheless, I thank Allah everyday for the ease to which he
has allowed me to make the necessary changes in my life so that I can continue
to live in America and still be, Insha-Allah, a good Muslim. As a white,
middle-class American, many of the cultural aspects of Islam are quite
different from what I, and those close to me throughout my life, have been used
to. In fact, when I finally broke the news to my family that I had taken my
shahadda and become Muslim, almost all of their questions and concerns were
related to cultural differences – marriage, social life, family, etc. They were
much less concerned about my general beliefs around God and religious practice.
For my family, friends, and co-workers, becoming Muslim was not seen
necessarily as a negative change, but it has required a great deal of education
for them about Islam. In fact, as with my own education, this process of
sharing the truth about Islam with them is never-ending because there is no
limit to how much knowledge we can acquire, and it is the responsibility of
every one of us to share whatever right knowledge we have.
Because
acquiring right knowledge is such a critical component to a Muslim’s
development, having a teacher who has taught me how to apply Islam in everyday
life that has made all the difference for me and helped me in managing whatever
difficulties I have experienced from my reversion. Having someone knowledgeable
you can turn to whenever you have questions is a wonderful support that every
new shahadda should go out of their way to find. Islam is not a religion that
can be rationalized, in the way that Christianity and Judaism have been over
the ages. It is a clear path that must be followed exactly as Allah laid for us
through the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW), his companions, and the
saints and scholars of Islam.
In
this day and age, in this society, discerning the path can often be difficult,
especially when we are constantly faced with questions and doubts from people
who on the surface may not be hostile to Islam, but whose general lack of faith
can have a harmful effect on someone who bases everything they do on their love
for Allah. It is also not easy being in an environment where we are constantly
bombarded with sensual temptations which are seen as ordinary, common aspects
of everyday life. But when we have the support of a knowledgeable, experienced
teacher, who is able to apply the universal teachings of Islam to his life,
then the truth becomes clear from error, exactly how Allah (SWT) describes in
the Qur’an. From this, we are able to understand how to apply Islam correctly
to our own lives, and thus receive Allah’s many blessings. The ultimate test,
however, of anyone who claims to have true and right knowledge, is to look at
how they apply it in their own lives. If their actions support their teachings,
then and only then should we look to them for guidance.
My
journey to Islam, although short, has been a life-altering experience. It is
one that with every passing day, makes me more and more appreciative and
thankful to Almighty Allah. The extent of his mercy can only fully be
understood from the perspective of someone who prostrates themselves regularly
and submits their will to that of the Creator. This is what I strive for
through Islam, and what the ultimate jihad is. It is the struggle that we must
fight every moment of every day, but one that we love, because we know who to
turn to for support and who is helping us along.
I
look back at my life prior to Islam and reflect on the different ways I sought
guidance. I think back to all the different ideas I once had of who God really
is, and how we can become close to Him. I look back now and smile and perhaps
even shed a tear because now I know the truth. Through Islam, I know why so
many people who do not believe have so much fear inside them. Life can be very
scary without God. I know, because I once harbored that same level of fear.
Now, however, I have the ultimate “self-help” program. It’s the self-help
program without the self. It’s the path that puts everything is in its proper
place. Now, life makes sense. Now, life is order. Now, I know why I am here,
where I want to go, what I want my life to be, how I want to live, and what is
most important not just to me, but to everyone. I only hope and pray that
others who have not found the path yet, can feel the same that I do.
Alhamdulillahi rabbil aylameen (All praise and thanks are for Allah, the Lord
and Cherisher of all creation).